Maggie was
the first. I met her in February 1981. I was working for a UK company that
manufactured synthetic fibres. There was at the time something called The
Multi-Fibre Agreement, an international trade deal that restricted the ability
of developing nations to export cheap fibres into Europe.
It was due for renegotiation and employees of the company were naturally
worried about the possible impact on their jobs. Several of us wrote to our MPs
seeking support for a deal that would protect our company's position in
international markets.
In a
footnote to his reply the MP for Cleethorpes mentioned a meeting taking place
to protest about the re-development of the old swimming pool as a modern
leisure centre. I decided to go to the meeting and find out what it was all
about. Although the Conservative MP had called the meeting none of the
Conservative councillors bothered to attend. All 5 members of the minority
Liberal Party group did attend. Their leader did his best to explain the thinking
behind the scheme and to allay some of the concerns being expressed by those
whose homes were close to the site of the planned development.
I had
wanted to join the Liberal Party for some time and took the chance to
button-hole one of the councillors after the meeting. A tall lady with dark
hair and a friendly manner she introduced herself as Maggie Smith and invited
me to join her and most of the others at the Liberal Club in the town. There I
met her husband Brian and Norman, the leader of the group, who had so impressed
me with the clarity of his explanations at the meeting.
Political Activity
Over the
next ten years we all became close friends as well as party colleagues. Maggie
acted as agent at the 1983 general election. As a member of her team I saw how
hard she worked - I had already seen the extraordinary amount of effort she
expended on behalf of the people she represented in a ward that consisted of a
mixture of private and social housing. In 1987 our roles were reversed; I was
agent, drawing heavily on her experience. By then I was also a Councillor at
both County and District levels.
Throughout
this period we socialised, usually at the Liberal Club where all of us also
worked as volunteer bar persons as well as mucking in when the Club moved
premises and a great deal of building alterations and decorating was required.
We went on two or three holidays to Germany
together where we were entertained by members of the FDP (German Liberals) in
Cleethorpes' twin town of Konigswinter.
By 1991
changes in my career path necessitated a move away from Cleethorpes but we
remained in touch. A large group, including Maggie, Brian, Norman and his wife,
paid a surprise visit to our new home to celebrate my 50th birthday. It was not
so long after that we had a phone call to say that Maggie was in hospital in Lincoln.
Cancer Took Them
We visited
her there and were shocked to see her condition. Barely able to breathe, let
alone speak, she kept apologising - for not being able to entertain us I
suppose. Within days she was gone and we
were joining the hundreds who attended her funeral. It was there that Maggie's
sister-in-law told us that Maggie had been in pain for many months but had
refused to see her doctor, perhaps in fear of the diagnosis - who knows. By the
time she did it was too late; the disease had taken hold and would not be
denied.
If Maggie
was the first friend to be taken by cancer she was not the first in our circle.
Ann was barely in her thirties. The daughter of another of the Liberal Party
circle in Cleethorpes she had already lost her father to the disease and her
mother had, thankfully, recovered from breast cancer. Her husband was a teacher
at my son's school but soon after we got to know them they moved to Norfolk. The form of
breast cancer that attacked Ann must have been much more aggressive than that
suffered by her mother for she died at a tragically young age.
A few years
after Maggie's death we heard that Norman
was undergoing treatment for bowel cancer. He recovered, or so we thought. The
last time we saw him he was full of enthusiasm for the latest plans for
development of a neglected part of the sea-front, something that he had been
struggling to achieve for many years. Now, it seemed, there was hope that
something positive was going to happen. He showed us the plans and explained
how it would be a great boost to Cleethorpes' ability to attract visitors.
The
remission did not last long enough for him to see the plans brought to
fruition; he was dead within weeks of that last visit. I could go on with this
list; Norman's
sister, several family members who I won't name and ending with a lady from
Portlaoise who I knew from her work with Tidy Towns and whose death a week ago
prompted this reminiscence.
Support is Vital
I think I
have said enough to make clear why I try to do what little I can for cancer
charities. It is a horrible disease and, whilst survival rates are improving
all the time, it seems that one in every two men and one in every three women will develop cancer at some point in their lives. The work of those who support
patients and their families in places like the Cuisle Centre in Portlaoise as well as researchers developing new treatments is vital if premature and painful deaths like
Maggie's are to be prevented in future.